If you shut up truth and bury it under the ground, it will but grow,
and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through
it will blow up everything in its way.
Over time, we create another story to replace the unwanted memory and imagine that it is real--of flowers and sunshine, of laughter and play. The indiscretion, the rape, the violence slips into oblivion--or so we think.
Our hearts carry these buried memories, and as we seal them deep within the most tender part of who we are, less of us is here. And so it is that our secret separates us from others--and from ourselves.
The headlines revel in the exposure of entombed truths--because we live through these notable figures. When Oprah revealed her victimization, her story opened wounds across the seas and stirred many to speak.
Psychotherapist Odelia Carmon explains that we are afraid of the consequences of truth, afraid that such disclosure would jeopardize our image and the perception of those around us. It is a risk we do not want to take. And, so we block off our hearts--to loves deep and dreams free.
Our closed life keeps us safe, or so we think; but what is the cost?